Whether you call me friend, mom, sister, acquaintance, boss or wife, you know that I love to chat. And the other day I had the pleasure of chatting with my new friend Tricia Goyer. We had a great conversation on planning, purpose, pondering–and what it means to be a passionate mom.
Phones, iPads, laptops, and video games may be a big part of your child’s Christmas joy. But after a week of policing your child’s use of their new technology, you may feel slightly less joyful. Electronics are here to stay and as a mom protecting your child while using electronis is your job. I call this guarding the gate to electronics. An excerpt from The Passionate Mom. Gate 5: The Electronics Gate This gate leads to today’s most popular entertainments: television, computers, music, movies, video games . . . I have covered much of why this is a gateway privilege. Anyone, adult or child, can lose himself in electronics for hours a day. I confess: I love technology and the sleek efficiency of what this gate has to offer. Gates are opportunities, but if misused, any gate can be an enticing distraction. (click to tweet) Electronics are not evil. They are wonderful tools for learning and entertainment, but they do require wisdom and self-control. (click to tweet) There are good choices and bad to be made in what you allow your child to watch, listen to, and play. The stakes in the choices are getting higher. Television and movies are more explicit today than even ten years ago. …
Sharing information with friends about their children can be a rather tough thing for a mom. Many moms do not want to hear that their children are in trouble. With five teenagers, I have been on both sides of bad news, the giving and the receiving. I say the following with great urgency and concern: moms, swallow your pride and listen. If you don’t listen, you may close a door to future information that you need to know—information that could save your child from a troublesome situation, such as an abusive boyfriend or drugs. I know moms like this; they choose privacy and pride when what their children need is open and honest communication between parents that will deliver to them the protection of accountability. Instead, try to build a group of moms who stand together; at iMOM we jokingly call this the “Mom Mafia.” Here are some tips on starting your own Mom Mafia. 1. Build relationships with key informants. If you don’t have a social relationship or friendship with any of the parents of your kids’ friends, start one. It’s important to know these people well if your child is going to be hanging out in their homes and spending lots …
Most moms struggle with patience. I am no exception and I boldly confessed that weakness in The Passionate Mom. I have studied, prayed and diligently tried to master patience. I have even turned to quotes from wise sages for inspiration as you can see below. If you struggle with patience too, you can consider this a leg up on your research. Feel free to copy my homework about why I need to grow patience. 1. Patience will make you wiser. “Patience is the companion of wisdom.” —Augustine